The only thing constant is change. But it's easy to forget that.
Sometimes, we can get so comfortable with something in our lives, such as, a relationship, a job, or even a material thing, like a car. Once we no longer have it, there's a feeling of emptiness and sometimes depression.
Alot of times, we don't want to keep going, we just want to give up on life, not really caring anymore, not really trying. We just assume that that our life has peaked already and that everything from here on out is not worth it, or mediocre at best.
If you have ever felt that way, I have 12 tips to share with you. It's going to take time and effort, but if you set your mind to it, you can deal with those disappointing changes in life and move on.
1. Accept it.
Stop thinking there is something you can do, to get things back to normal. If it's done, it's done, if it's gone, it's gone. If you keep trying to get it back, you are only delaying the process of moving on. So you have to learn to let go.
2. Stop analyzing the past.
Stop thinking about what you could have done or said. No matter how much you analyze, the past, you can never change it, so it is really all just a waste of time. To think about what might have been, is to live in a fantasy world, and it's time to get back to the real world!
3. Have fun!
You might be so miserable that you may think it's impossible to have fun. You might think that even if you did go out, you wouldn't fully enjoy it because you are so miserable. But that's okay. It's better to do something fun, and only be 50% happy, than to stay home and bask in your misery and be 0% happy.
4. Spend time on your hobbies.
Your hobbies are a great way to distract you from your pain, and also give you something to be passionate about. If you don't have any hobbies, try something new. My personal hobby is blogging and it definitely helps me, when I am feeling down.
5. Spend time with family or friends.
You will be surprised at how much spending time with friends and family can help. Having lunch with someone, and listening to what is going on in their lives, instead of dwelling on what's going on in yours, will not only help you, but it can also help them as well!
6. Look for lessons that can be learned from the experience.
Each painful experience has a hidden lesson in there somewhere. If you can learn from defeat, you haven't really lost! So learn from the experience, and take that knowledge with you and use it in your future experiences. In the future, you may find yourself be grateful for that painful experience, because it taught you how to handle a new situation that comes about in the future.
7. Find the things you love about his moment.
"The good old days" may have been the best time of your life, but that doesn't mean this time can't be happy too. Really take the time to think about the people, or things in your life that you appreciate right now. Because guess what, just like you lost one thing, you can lose the next just as easily, so try not to take anyone or anything for granted.
8. Change up your look!
Embrace this change in your life, by creating a new look to go with it. New hair, new clothes, new make-up. Experiment with lots of things, until you find what makes you feel the most confident and beautiful!
9. Think positive!
Negative thoughts will always come knocking at your door, but don't answer! Believe that things will get better and this pain in only temporary! Take the time, to listen to positive messages, watch positive videos, and surround yourself with positive people!
10. Life is full of good experiences.
You may have had one experience, that was so beautiful, so perfect and it may have been the best experience of your life.... SO FAR. But remember, that in life, you will have many good experiences. But you can't just wait for them, you have to create them and you have to have positive mindset.
11. Let go of bitterness and resentment.
It's easy to hate the person who left you and wish bad things on them! But seriously, it's better to just wish them well, and not have any hard feelings. It's easier said than done, but it will be alot better for you in the long run.
12. You have to WANT to move on.
Alot of the time, when we don't move on, it's not because we can't, but because we don't want to. As much as it hurts us, to think he's gone for good, it still feels good to think of the good times, and fantasize about how it would be things would just go back to normal. If you really want move on, you have to be willing to let go of, not only the pain, but the pleasure you receive from the good memories as well.
Conclusion-
Change is one of the most difficult things in life. But you can't stop it. All you can do is adapt. Yes, it was a great time in your life, but sadly, that time is over.
THAT part of your life may be over but THIS part is not. THIS part can be a happy time, for new beginnings, and new experiences. Enjoy it and appreciate it while you can, because it won't be long, before THESE days are what you will call, "the good old days."
With love,
Bianca Bugatti
Twitter: ThriftShopPride
